So many couples get caught in the trap of scorekeeping! Who did the most this week, who got less sleep (speaking to you, parents with young kids), who spent the most, who did more housework, on and on! It’s easy to have a running tally in your head of how much you’ve done vs. what Read More
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When fights get ugly, part 2
So how do we stop these awful fight from happening and how to we move past them? First, recognize the pattern that you get in. Not the stuff that you’re fighting about, but the way you and your spouse each respond. Do you move towards or away. Start to see the pattern you get in Read More
When fights get ugly
I often hear from couples about how nasty their arguments can get. Hurtful things said, divorce threatened. Why does this happen with the person you care about? How can you stop it? What do you do with the aftermath of damage? Well, there are actually reasons that make alot of sense, even though that doesn’t Read More
Couples say this all the time…and it’s just not true.
Often in the first session or two I spend with couples, one spouse will say some version of “maybe we’re just not compatible” or “we’re just too different to make this work.” I get it, and I know it can feel like this. We’ve all heard men and women are from different planets, right? But Read More
Is it possible to win a fight, when it means your spouse has to lose?
When you think about it, it’s easy to get into a fight with your spouse, and the intent becomes to win! To prove your point, get your way, show your spouse he/she is wrong. But do you really win, when the one you love loses? I encourage couples to look at conflict differently…your spouse is Read More