In the last post, I talked about the “primal panic” that happens when you feel rejected, alone, and that your partner is not available to you (when she says no to sex, he won’t connect emotionally, etc.). That panic is actually a cry for connection…I so badly want to connect, but I feel that you Read More
Author: Tressa Gibbs
Why he gets so upset when you’re not in the mood…
In the book Hold Me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson uses the term “primal panic” to describe what happens to us when we feel like we are losing connection with our loved ones. For example, if he initiates sex or physical closeness with you and you’re not in the mood. Or if you want to talk after Read More
We all have it, but no one likes to talk about it…
Shame! Shame is basically the belief that we are not good enough or worthy of love. Shame is universal. We all have had experience or time where we have felt less than or unworthy. I think most women have times where they compare themselves to other women and don’t feel they measure up. Many men Read More
He’s angry all the time…help!
Do you wonder why your husband seems angry all the time? The littlest thing (usually you or the kids) set him off so easily? Chances are, there are some hidden, underlying emotions underneath. He may not even be aware of them. Could be fear of failing, never feeling good enough, lonely, longing to physically connect Read More
Fighting with your spouse: healthy or not?
John Gottman, therapist, author and leading expert on marriages, says what distinguishes the happiest couples from the rest is not the ability to avoid fights, but the ability to repair after the fight. So rather than focusing on avoiding conflict, I think it makes sense to look at what is underneath the conflict. Oftentimes, couples Read More
Do we need counseling?
5 signs you may need to go to a marriage counselor: 1- You feel like roommates or co-parents. It is way too easy to fall into this rut if you aren’t actively investing in your marriage. It can feel a bit like Groundhog’s Day sometimes…come home from work, tag team with chores, chauffeur kids around, Read More