Often in the first session or two I spend with couples, one spouse will say some version of “maybe we’re just not compatible” or “we’re just too different to make this work.” I get it, and I know it can feel like this. We’ve all heard men and women are from different planets, right? But is it true, are some people just not made to be together? I would have to say no, and this usually doesn’t have anything Read More
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Is it possible to win a fight, when it means your spouse has to lose?
When you think about it, it’s easy to get into a fight with your spouse, and the intent becomes to win! To prove your point, get your way, show your spouse he/she is wrong. But do you really win, when the one you love loses? I encourage couples to look at conflict differently…your spouse is not the enemy, they are actually on your team. If you’re fighting about money, it’s helpful to realize you and your spouse are actually on Read More
1 simple thing you can do to make your marriage better-today!
This is not going to be shocking. This may step on your toes. And it’s really so simple to do Put down your phone. This is the complaint I keep hearing from couples in counseling. “She is always on her phone.” ” He’d rather be on his phone than talk to me.” ” We’re in the middle of a conversation, and he’s sending an email.” “We’re laying in bed, and she’s checking Facebook.” Most of us struggle with this. It’s Read More
Do you want your marriage to go from good to great?
We get oil changes every 3-6 months to keep our car running well. Hopefully, we get physicals just to check in on our overall health and see what changes we may need to make. Why don’t we do this for the most important relationship in our life? I am offering a tune-up for marriages! I recommend marriage boosters for couples who are not in distress, but just want to do a check-in on their marriage! I will walk through conversations for Read More
Weekend enrichment for therapists
My friend and colleague, Kelly Borque, LMFT, and I are excited to offer a retreat for therapists and their spouses. A place to experience what you give your clients, and see first hand what itR… Source: Weekend enrichment for therapists
5 ways to have more intimacy in marriage (or how to be more than roommates)
5 ways to have more intimacy in your marriage (or how to be more than roommates): 1- Take off the emotional armor- There are times you need to protect yourself from getting hurt so you need to put up a wall or put on “emotional armor” to avoid “wearing your feelings on your sleeves” (board room, important business meeting, in sports, with a parent who continually is deceiving or manipulative, etc.). But, if you don’t take it off around those Read More