Shame! Shame is basically the belief that we are not good enough or worthy of love. Shame is universal. We all have had experience or time where we have felt less than or unworthy. I think most women have times where they compare themselves to other women and don’t feel they measure up. Many men feel they are not good enough in their jobs, or as husbands or fathers. All of us have things from our past or things about Read More
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Fighting with your spouse: healthy or not?
John Gottman, therapist, author and leading expert on marriages, says what distinguishes the happiest couples from the rest is not the ability to avoid fights, but the ability to repair after the fight. So rather than focusing on avoiding conflict, I think it makes sense to look at what is underneath the conflict. Oftentimes, couples seem to be having the same argument over and over, but don’t really know what’s going on underneath the fight. Usually, we see the secondary Read More
Do we need counseling?
5 signs you may need to go to a marriage counselor: 1- You feel like roommates or co-parents. It is way too easy to fall into this rut if you aren’t actively investing in your marriage. It can feel a bit like Groundhog’s Day sometimes…come home from work, tag team with chores, chauffeur kids around, sleep…start over. If you aren’t careful, you will miss out on all of the JOY of marriage 2- Your sex life is lacking. I often Read More