Do you wonder why your husband seems angry all the time? The littlest thing (usually you or the kids) set him off so easily? Chances are, there are some hidden, underlying emotions underneath. He may not even be aware of them. Could be fear of failing, never feeling good enough, lonely, longing to physically connect with you. But what can you do about it? The first step is being aware that there may be more than meets the eye. Rather Read More
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Fighting with your spouse: healthy or not?
John Gottman, therapist, author and leading expert on marriages, says what distinguishes the happiest couples from the rest is not the ability to avoid fights, but the ability to repair after the fight. So rather than focusing on avoiding conflict, I think it makes sense to look at what is underneath the conflict. Oftentimes, couples seem to be having the same argument over and over, but don’t really know what’s going on underneath the fight. Usually, we see the secondary Read More
Do we need counseling?
5 signs you may need to go to a marriage counselor: 1- You feel like roommates or co-parents. It is way too easy to fall into this rut if you aren’t actively investing in your marriage. It can feel a bit like Groundhog’s Day sometimes…come home from work, tag team with chores, chauffeur kids around, sleep…start over. If you aren’t careful, you will miss out on all of the JOY of marriage 2- Your sex life is lacking. I often Read More