So many men feel that they cannot share their struggles with their wives. Their inadequacies. Their failures. And often, unfortunately, they’re right. Maybe he’s shared that he’s worried about his job security, and this causes his wife to worry and add pressure, and so he decided it would be better to keep that to himself. Maybe he shared that he occasionally struggles with lust or pornography, and she panics and unintentionally shames him, so he mentally says “I can’t share that part of me again.” Read More
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When she’s not in the mood…part 2
In the last post, I talked about the “primal panic” that happens when you feel rejected, alone, and that your partner is not available to you (when she says no to sex, he won’t connect emotionally, etc.). That panic is actually a cry for connection…I so badly want to connect, but I feel that you aren’t there for me! Human nature says we have to avoid this feeling, this pain of disconnection. So we tend to do one of two Read More